Stop carrying other people’s dreams

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Jun 24, 2026
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It´s great having someone to “save”. That way, we don’t need to save ourselves, meaning look into what is really happening to us. Our unmet needs.

I did that for years.
Until it backfired.

Some time ago, I tried to “rescue” a very close family member from a decision I thought would hurt him.

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I was stressed. I pushed too hard.

He got angry. He questioned my intentions.

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Like helping an old lady cross the street, just to realize she never wanted to cross.

Here’s what I’m practicing now 👇

1️⃣ Give support, but don’t carry the weight of other people
2️⃣ Don’t help others more than they want to help themselves
3️⃣ Respect different levels of ambition & awareness

I learned the hard way the difference between support and control. Don’t repeat my mistake.

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